Meet the Stockport CELIGIRLS!
Christine (17) says:
I believe it is best to wait until you are married – then you never have to picture your husband with another woman or compare him to anyone else. My parents think it’s a phase I’m going through and they are worried that I will feel guilty if I give up on my vows, and my friends think I’m insane but accept my decision. A lot of people at school think sex is natural and what everyone should be doing, so there is a lot of pressure coming from all different angles. I was a bit of an outcast and have been bullied in the past, so at one time I thought that having sex might be a way to fit in, but luckily I found God first.
School sex education is awful. You are simply told how not to get pregnant and not to have sex until you’re ready. They never tell you that you don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to. I never even knew what a STI was until I was 14. When I was 15, a supply PSE (personal and social education) teacher was chatting to us all at the end of the class, and I remember her saying that everyone ‘does it’ at our age.
To those who are having sex and say everyone is doing it, I would ask them to think about this: I can choose to be like you – to go out and have sex - at any time. But you can never recapture your virginity once it’s gone.
Karen (34) says:
I was brought up as a Christian so I have always been taught about no sex before marriage. However, I went through a really rebellious stage at 16 when my parents moved us from one part of the country to another. I went off the rails, began having sex with my boyfriend and, and 18, I had my first son. My boyfriend and I got married two years later and I was determined that we wouldn’t end up another divorce statistic like other married couples, but we did. By then I’d had a second son and when my children were four and fifteen months respectively I began life as a single parent. I know now that I should have waited, and I’m now determined to start afresh and remain celibate until marriage.
I now belong to a good group of single Christian women and we are very honest and accountable to each other. I don’t feel any pressure from the media but I avoid sexual imagery just because I think that when you have had sexual relationships you develop a need for sex and I want my mind as well as my body to be pure for my future husband.
I have been single for two years now and I’m certainly not missing all the emotional turmoil, anguish and heartache that go alongside giving myself sexually to someone else. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and not going back!
Young people need to hear about the emotional side of sex. Basically, if they are determined to have sex, they will, but if they hear the message of how sex affects your emotions they will be better informed and perhaps might just think again before launching into a sexual relationship.
Suzie (20) says:
The message about abstinence before marriage is such an important Biblical and social issue and yet people shy away from talking about it. I want to stay pure for God and for my future husband, and I’m not ashamed of this. Our culture tells people to sleep around so I’m quite passionate about spreading the opposite message. There is so much pressure and I felt this especially when I was younger. My coping mechanism is to pray when it gets hard and this always helps. People should stand up more for what they believe in. However much I liked a man, if he had issues with my boundaries and beliefs, he’s not the guy for me.
Left to right: Christine, Karen and Suzie proudly display their silver rings, pledging sexual abstinence until marriage